Writing down that which we are grateful for helps to shift our focus off the things we cannot control, and onto the positive aspects of our life; those that we are blessed to experience.
In honoring this simple, daily adjustment in our routines, we change the energy of our being to vibrate at a higher frequency, therefore attracting more sustenance into our lives that is rooted in love.
For years I've kept myself busy; always had more than one project on the go, always worked hard, raised kids and done things for others on top of my own life. It soon defined who I was.. I had a reputation for just that: a loyal, hardworking woman who had a big heart; someone that everyone could rely on.. someone who was always there, giving and giving some more.
What took me forever to learn, however, was that this seemingly admirable trait was really a distraction from having to love myself and spend a whole lot of time with me. When this was gently pointed out to me by a professional colleague, mentor and confidante (who also happens to be a clinical counselor), I was in absolute denial and was quite insulted by this suggestion. She is the kind of person, however, that I needed to hear that from; I admire her professionalism, her direct approach, and above all, I trust her beyond anything. We discussed this at great length, more than once, and she was able to pry away that first important, steadfast and iron-clad layer that let the light through.
I'm grateful for that moment in my life, as it truly was a turning point for me. Since that time, I've completed my own professional training as a Registered Psychiatric Nurse and have learned even more about the psychology behind this very common behaviour. This has resulted in a tremendous amount of work on my Self, which I am forever grateful for. I've had to really concentrate on saying "no" and not taking on too much. I've realized that its innately easier to fall back into the same old habits, but with perseverance and a willingness to change, I've managed to overcome that desire to bury myself in busy-ness and instead, to find the peace and solitude in living in the moment. From this, I've not only gained a sense of wellness, peace, contentment, focus, completion but more success than ever before.
Sometimes we have to allow others the privilege of holding up our mirrors to see ourselves for who and what we truly are. Sometimes that moment isn't pretty and deep down, we likely know that, and that's what keeps us wrapped up in the go-go-go lifestyle.
I'm grateful now that I can sit in silence with myself and that I can enjoy my own company again. I've gained a tremendous amount of gratitude for being able to love myself.. something I realized in that epiphanous moment, that I could never do before.
I'm thankful for the people who have woven their way into my life over the last year in particular; these people have been monumentous in seeing my new dreams and goals to fruition, and for that, I will forever be grateful. I've realized that its not about crossing the finish line by yourself as the winner, but about creating a team that can each carry the other to the finish line at the same time, albeit each with their own journey.
I am blessed, and for that, I am thankful.
We all like to think of ourselves as progressive in our thoughts, our livelihood, our relationships and our lives in general. For me the focus has been internal rather than external. Journeying to the center of this 'earth' (me) has been tough. There's been no map, no indication of direction, no knowing of this way or that, no answers, and at times, it's even been scary and dark. Similar to hunkering down in a dark room, the eyes soon adjust to their new environment and you begin to be able to 'see'. The internal journey has been very much that way. It's amazing to me just how much light can travel down into the depths of Self.
That light doesn't come from sun-source, however. Rather, it comes by way of peeling back the layers that have hardened us, wrapped us safely, protected us and nurtured us from life up to this very moment. Those wraps, cloaks, tarps and reinforced steel buildings no longer serve us, and the process of tearing down those protective layers is very liberating and ultimately allows more light inward.
Self-realization is a powerful thing; it literally has the power to change your perspective of life; what's important and what's not. Through this journey, I've slowly become 'detached' from material 'stuff' that really doesn't matter. Don't get me wrong, I still have expensive taste and have a huge admiration and respect for the creation of man-made items borne from creative minds... but my desire to own them and possess them has greatly diminished, I'm proud to say. I can see the intrinsic value in relationships and astonishingly enough, those who no longer walk the same journey as me have faded to the background and new, amazing souls have presented themselves in the here and now.
The amount of pressure that relieves alone is paramount to happiness... Happiness truly is a very simplistic end to a rather attached journey through life. This has resulted in a slower pace to my life... being able to live in the moment and cherish each and every moment and person that comes into that time with me, however fleeting.
I recognize the value in 'being' in the moment: we are pre-wired to do just that.. after all, we're not human 'doings'..but human 'beings'..
Having no regrets has also been part of the growth that has come from this introspection.. regrets keep you anchored to the past, and like a weight that just won't let go, it will eventually rob you of your strength, your passion and motivation to keep on moving forward.
My life now has more meaning, more valuable relationships, more truth, more authenticity, more beauty, more peace, more synchronicity and more positive energy.
For that, I am eternally grateful. I have truly come full bloom...I am blessed.
Coming back home to Vancouver Island after a week away at a Therapeutic Touch Mentorship Intensive has been tough. It was such a spiritually infused and blessed energy group to be a part of, it was hard to come back to the realities of everyday life outside of Indralaya.
I was connected with some amazing souls while I was there and made some new life-long friends as well. I journaled daily which is such a treat... life at home is sometimes too hectic to allow me enough 'me time' to do such things.
The peace and tranquility and the quality learning and experiences at this camp were inexplicably wondrous. I learned so much from my mentors and the others who gave seminars throughout the week. The daily meditations were beautifully facilitated and the food was unbelievable.
I wasn't sure about the ova-lacto-vegetarian diet at first, thinking it would leave me feeling hungry between meals, but the menu was amazing and the food fabulous, and miraculously, I never felt hungry anytime in-between.
The scenery was stunning.. the Island is beautiful and filled with quaint farms, buildings and breathtaking coastlines with the neighbouring San Juan Islands so close there is a feeling of protection from their vicinity. Residents are friendly and have that laid-back-Island-life-approach to living. It truly is a magical place.
We were asked to do a short presentation our last day for the whole group on what our learning experience was like there: I wrote from the heart, like I always do, and was so grateful to be able to share the words with everyone else. It went something like this:
"Thinking back over this last week, my mind is filled with dozens of adjectives that I could use to describe how I felt about my time here. However, they too have morphed over the week into words that hold much deeper meanings.
Day One: excitement, anticipation, nervousness, eagerness, curiosity, humor
Day Two: inquisitive, questioning, humbled, self-aware, meditative, reflective, stewardship, tired
Day Three: Energized, introspection, self-discovery, sharing, connecting, camaraderie, understanding, openness, humility, groundedness.
Day Four: centeredness, peace, acceptance, simplicity, connectivity, exhaustion
Day Five: unity, order, transformation, universality, bonding, life-way, understanding
Day Six: respectful, honored, blessed, teamwork, transcendence
Now, my Mentor, Sue, is likely sitting there saying "Well, that sounds very lovely, Dayle, but what does that 'feel' like?"
Well, it feels like the lens through which I viewed the world has been cleansed of a film that was obscuring my vision. The distant blue mountains now I know have beautifully deep-rooted trees that can withstand the winds; rivers that wind through out, sometimes cascading and carving, and yet other times trickling or calm and deep, but always nourishing. Animals and other life-forms reside there too, all in harmony with the trees, the water, and each other. Each very unique but each equally affected by the actions of the other. The Sun I see now has rays that reach deep within even the darkest parts of the forest, adding warmth and light to foster growth and life.
Color abounds an each is a new perspective and representation of my emotions that have been newly defined.
I see the wings of a butterfly that can now gently un-ruffle a field the most beautiful soft green and yellow that can heal and comfort. I sense the swirl of a cool breeze and the color blue that can calm and cool the irritation, and I can hear the hum of the color purple that can open and heal the darkest places.
I can smell the warm salty breeze that can stimulate the void and I can taste the spice that can heat up the coldness. I can feel the energy, see the connection and hear the words depicted as images, emotions, and senses that before were unimaginable.
What I learned this week cannot be captured in a textbook. It is so much more than that, and for me truly is the embodiment of what Therapeutic Touch is all about. It has been a wonderful journey. Namaste"
I am grateful and I am blessed to be part of such an amazing and wonderful group of healers. Indralaya, I will be back.. :)
~Love and Light
I love it when I find books or documentaries that rock my world. They seem to come to me at the exact moment that they are required to help shift my perspective on some subject or another.
I wanted to share my findings with everyone as I think these are a goldmine of information that can truly make a difference to how we think, feel and act in our created realities.
There is a global shift occurring and we're all part of that changing energy. We must become agents of change.... 'changents'.... in order for the shift to complete. We know it innately; we can feel it; we've noticed the changes already as upheaval, unrest, unhappiness and unsettled energy.
There is a huge list of video documentaries that are truly eyeopening that can be found at this link:
300 Videos to Expand Your Consciousness and Blow Your Mind
And some truly inspiring books listed here:
Books that Can Save the World
It is one thing to read or watch these and be affected by them, but more importantly is how we react; how we effect change in our own way to carry these messages that have affected us so deeply, forward for others. Change occurs when the energy of a new perspective is kept alive and manifested through growing energy. That comes from you and I reacting to what we see and hear.
Choose carefully what you want to be passionate about. We all have a part to play in being earthly 'changents'.. we have to adopt a global worldview instead of a 'me' view.. look around and see what you've failed to notice before. Find your passion in that detail and shift your energy to where it really makes a difference.
~Love and Light
I've become increasingly aware of the connection between myself and the people I meet. I have become 'tuned in' to the vibration that exists between myself and someone new that comes into my life, and it goes beyond what they do for a living, their looks or outward appearance. By simply paying attention to the energy that exists between us during our interaction, I've come to notice a very strong and predominant thread; for every person that I have met since the beginning of this year, the energy seems to be the same: comfortable, familiar and with a degree of 'knowing each other' that cannot be explained in this moment alone.
Having worked quite a bit lately with energy workers and Shamans, I have learned that these are likely 'soul tribe' members.. souls that I have been with at a time before; ones that resonate with you without judgment but rather out of pure unconditional love for you, naturally.
We all want to belong to someone, but historically with the advent of becoming 'civilized', we've pulled away from belonging to large groups or 'tribes' and focused all our energy on finding that 'one' person who can fill the void left by belonging to a larger group. Impossible task, and statistically, the divorce rates prove my point. I"m grateful that I have gained this deeper understanding of what really matters in order to find fulfillment and authenticity in my life!
So how do we find our 'tribe' in today's world? Who do we fit in with, and for many of us, how do we find them during the later stages of life when meeting people seems to be increasingly more difficult?
Here are some tips given by Lisa Rankin on the subject:
I'm grateful that I've started to find my tribe in this later stage of my life. I'm surrounded by the most beautiful and uplifting souls I could ever imagine. The love we have for each other is pure, unconditional and true to all that is. It's not about sexual needs or desire.. its about something much deeper than that. It's a new feeling of 'friendships' and these ones are deeply rooted and I know that they're simply there to stay. It's a beautiful feeling knowing that you 'belong' somewhere, and I view it as a 'homecoming' of sorts.
My wish is that we all gravitate to our own tribes; a safe place where we are loved unconditionally and we are accepted, and most importantly, where we are supported and where spiritual growth and inspiration occur to keep us, or place us, on the path of authenticity where we ALL need to be. I'm so grateful for this part of my journey. I am blessed :)
The pace of insanity oftentimes overtakes our lives, insidiously and without conscious awareness. For me, finishing an intense accelerated nursing program, settling into a new home, starting a new position and giving of myself in my healing arts, as well as planning for the next step in my life and career has been coming to a head this year, just as similar energy exists this Spring for many of us. It will all settle earlier this summer, thankfully, and I'm grateful for the downtime I was able to enjoy this morning, starting with a languishing sleep-in that was so rejuvenating to this weary soul.
I'm able to now see the value in downtime or alone-time, or 'me' time as some call it. I've always kept myself busy with multiple projects, or dedicated myself wholeheartedly to the lives of others. This year marks a whole new direction for me and with that is some uncomfortableness as I navigate some of my own 'stuff' in the process of change.
I'm thankful that I have the insight, intelligence and motivation to embrace the changes, and through that, have now come to fully embrace the moments of silence that come in-between. It is during these moments that I find time to practice my Self care, such as meditation, journaling, and my spirituality. I'm grateful for the feeling of rejuvenation and homeostasis that my body is able to enjoy as well as my soul. Making these moments part of my daily routine has been challenging as I tend to try to fill the voids with activities, instead of viewing the downtime as an activity in itself. Where else can you find someone willing to focus 100% on your Self, make a delicious tea, pour you a hot steamy bubble-bath with Epsom salts, listen to your favorite music as loud as you want, and just BE in the moment, if not through YOU?
I have learned to become my own best friend before anything else. I have grown to realize that I no longer require anyone else to make me happy, but that my own happiness and peace comes from within; this has been my biggest lesson of this year of change, and for that, I am so very grateful for having experienced the difference this one change has made to my peace of mind, overall health and happiness.
Embrace yourself. Learn to love hanging out with yourself. If you can't stand to be by yourself for too long, how do you expect others to be able to do the same? I'm thankful that I am a decent person and that I actually like hanging out with myself. I'm kinda cool, I think, and for that, I'm grateful :)
~In love and light.
Today marks another milestone as I travel to the mainland to write my Nursing registration exam along with the rest of my classmates as well as others from all over the province. The realization of exactly what I've accomplished has yet to sink in, but I'm grateful for the freedom and peace that my new career has already given me.
I look forward to meering everyone again after a long time since last working with many of them. Many new friendships were formed and have become solidly planted in my new life. I'm thankful for all the lovely souls that have crossed into my life since this journey began two long years ago.
What this means now is that the academic doors will shut behind us and we now stand in the threshold that matks rhe boundary between student and professional. We have all earned our new designation with hard work, perseverence, dedication, and lots of coffee and some good moments of moaning and geoaning about 'the system'. Overall, I'm so very grateful that I chose to embark on this new path, and even more so that I've already been given blessings in positions within my new career. Life is good.
The next chapter of my life will be the constructive phase of laying the foundation of where I would ultimately like to see my profession go. My eyes are duly focused on my dream; and as I work towards making that a reality, step by step, I'm grateful that I have the patience and perseverence to make my dream come to fruition.
I am blessed, amd for that, I am grateful!
~ love and light
We go through life sometimes, fighting to hang onto things that want to leave, whether it is people, jobs, material wealth or habits, and then when it is gone, we fight to let go of that which no longer serves us well. It is one of the many human conundrums that we find ourselves in.
We learned so much from them all, and this year, especially, many of us have really learned the value of letting go and appreciating the lesson, for that was much more valuable than the loss.
I'm grateful for all the events in my life, and today, I celebrate the losses I've endured for they have put me on the path I'm on today with a whole new set of people that I journey forward with. The changes in my life have been spiritually profound, and a long-time coming.. for being focused in the past on others, I now turn my energy inward and focus on my Self and what I need to nourish that to foster further growth.
I'm thankful that the past is no longer my present, and that new love and joy are entering my life in rapid succession. I now know why nothing worked before, and why everything seemed to be a struggle. When one is in the 'groove' of love energy, and spiritually grounded where one operates in perfect harmony with the Universe, amazing things happen, and you attract healthy energy, healthy people and endless opportunity. I've learned that bad energy attracts bad energy.. and for that, I'm grateful too, as I know that I no longer have that energy around me or in me. My present health, wealth and friendship shows me that I'm doing okay, and for that, I'm grateful :)
~Love and Light
Mother's Day is a day to be grateful and give thanks for the children in your life. I count my blessings everyday that there exists three amazingly beautiful souls due to my part in their creation. I'm grateful for their presence and thankful for how they've turned out; they're gentle, loving, intelligent, respectable souls who have so much to offer this world. I honor their light and their love.
In my career, I see many patients who are at end of life and in various stages of reminiscing about their past life with family and loved ones. Even though many of them are so ill that they've long lost grip on what is reality and what is delusion, there is a common thread that runs strong and is not swayed by disease. This is the memory of their children. They may not know where they are, what time of the year or what day it is, or remember if they're married or not, but they can clearly reminisce about their children and even their grandchildren without any problem. I am brought to tears by the amount of love that this is borne from, every time I experience these moments with these very special people.
I am thankful for the memories that I have with each of my children, even if they are all unique to our individual relationship. I love my children, and love who they are becoming. I am honored and blessed to have played a part in their starting journey in this amazing life.
Honoring the time with these small and growing beings is key to their success and mine as a Mother. I have been blessed with their parallel journey along my own, and for that, I am grateful. I'm blessed with their unconditional love, and for that, I am eternally thankful.
Embrace your children. Love them and nourish them emotionally, physically and spiritually. They are the inherits of this Earth.
It's interesting how life can change direction in a single unannounced moment. Forgiveness has a huge part to play in the energy we attract into our lives. I know for myself, I have practiced forgiveness to greater depths this last year and the effects have been profound.
What I'm especially grateful in light of all this is the 'little things' in life.. and I mean this quite literally. I've grown attached to the little details in life of late; I think its part of my appreciation of introspection and paying attention to the details of Self from within.
Some of the "little" precious things in my life that I'm grateful for are my own kids, my ex's children, and my son's pet bunny to whom I've grown quite attached. These small beings are full of unconditional love, and when I'm with them, they are 100% focused on the relationship we have. It's a beautiful thing. I am thankful for the inquisitiveness that they all bring to our special relationships, and the endearing moments when they cuddle up against you, and you know that you offer them security, safety and love and that they can feel it from you. I'm grateful that I have the children in my life that I do.. for each of them is a wonderful and delightful blessing; a gentle reminder of the child in all of us who needs constant nurturing and that which is provided through interaction and play with these beautiful souls. Just listening to their often long-winded and animated, silly stories and fragmented thoughts is a delight, and I'm grateful for each and every moment I have with all of them.
I'm also extremely touched and forever grateful for the intimate little moments of unconditional love, empathy and compassion between myself, my clients and patients. When an elderly soul with dementia struggles to find the words to explain something they need or feel to me; I can gently take their hands while we come together, forehead to forehead and I tell them that its all okay. In these moments they are able to be lucid enough to tell me that they hate that their brains are failing them, and that the words they so desperately want me to hear, are lost. I often am told how scared they are. We share these moments sometimes with tears as I travel this slow and ever-changing and frightful journey with them. Or the client that comes to me and wants to know what they should do because they can't understand what is happening to them; I can take their hand and give them a hug, and tell them to walk with me.. we can do so in silence and the communication that is received in doing this is deeper than any verbal conversation we could attempt to have.
I'm also extremely grateful for the days that feel satisfying enough that allow me to have an afternoon nap, uninterrupted. As a nurse, the long 12 hour shifts overnight that are so disruptive are counterbalanced by these moments of solitude and peace. I"m grateful that I have the time in my life to relish these moments in a healthy manner.
I'm also grateful for the companionship of some amazing people who are on similar journey's to me, whether spiritually, emotionally, or professionally. Each one offers me moments of reflection that further enhance, augment and highlight my own unique abilities and persona. Through this self-realization comes Self Actualization, and for that, I'm so grateful.
Life is beautiful.. there are so many facets to living in this world, that we often forget to stop and 'smell the roses'.. and appreciate the little things that lief also offers us.
I'm grateful for the forgiveness in the hearts of those around me who have suffered and found requiem in this single, yet difficult act. I'm grateful for the human experience, for without that, none of my story would be able to be told. and so far, I think its a pretty interesting read...
~Namaste, friends :)