Writing down that which we are grateful for helps to shift our focus off the things we cannot control, and onto the positive aspects of our life; those that we are blessed to experience.
In honoring this simple, daily adjustment in our routines, we change the energy of our being to vibrate at a higher frequency, therefore attracting more sustenance into our lives that is rooted in love.
September is one of my favorite times of the year... the summer heat begins to dwindle, and although I prefer the longer days of summer, the earthy smells that return to the air with the cooler temperatures and some of the rains, really connects me to Mother Earth again and makes me feel alive. This is my favorite time of the year to be out in Nature, whether for a long hike, a meander down to my favorite beach or a paddle in the kayak. There seems to be a new energy in the environment, almost like how one feels when emerging from a hot sauna.
I'm grateful that I live in such a beautiful spot on this planet that affords me the beauty of the surrounding mountains and the ocean. The best of all my favorite things Nature has to offer.
Of course, fall wouldn't be complete without the harvest that comes with it that we all enjoy: fruits and berries abound, and the squash and root vegetables are ready in the gardens. I used to enjoy canning every year, but have had to put that on hold for now; I miss the smell of cooking fruit and spices filling my home for hours as dozens of canned goods are prepared. It's an amazing feeling creating an abundance of food for the ones you love. For that, I am also grateful. I am blessed to live in a country free from war and terror, where the landscape is forever damaged beyond any hope of a productive and nourishing garden. I'm thankful that I have loved ones who are still here with me in this lifetime to share these annual bounties with.
This time of year for me isn't just about the offerings that Mother Nature brings forth, but also the harvest we reap from within.
The summer months are the most productive for myself, when I busy myself with new ventures, creating new alliances and building new friendships. I'm thankful for all the new people that have come into my life in this last season, and look forward to nourishing those relationships further in the future.I'm also blessed to have received so much new training in the last few months, and more yet this fall. With each comes more and more opportunity for me to pay it forward with what services I offer the public; my contributions to making this world a better place for all is growing with each one of these ventures, and I'm so thankful that these opportunities continually cross my path.
Through this has come tremendous growth, and to me, that is bounty in and of itself. I have experienced more growth and inner peace in the last year than I have in a very long time.. it truly has been a productive year. I look forward to enjoying further insights and reflections through the coming months, and really taking a deep personal inventory of where I am today. I know that I will be showing a healthy margin for growth, experience, and productivity... all the good things in life.
My wish is that many more can experience the same during this time of the year.
~Love and light
It's easy for life to take over what we truly need and to become so busy that we let the little things go that we draw so much pleasure from.
Recently, I've cut back on the amount of 'work' that I"m doing out in the community simply so that I can make the time to do the things I need to do that nourish me spiritually, mentally and physically. It was hard to give up the extra income but I realized that it wasn't what was making me happy... and having regrets daily about what I was missing in my day to day life was weighing more heavy on me than anything.
I'm grateful for the realization that I've had in understanding what I need for my Self now. I think if I were younger, I would have ignored these inner messages and just plowed through and maintained that level of busy-ness.I'm thankful for where I'm at in my life today and what that has afforded me for time.
It's also really easy to lay the blame on external factors.. statements such as "there's never enough time in the day" is a poor excuse. Although time is a human perception, there is really no limit on when things need to be done, outside of work where we likely have no control over those demands. We put pressure on ourselves to have more, be more, do more. Our kids suffer, our pets get ignored, our joyful moments lose their priorities as the insidious tentacles of busy-ness begin to take over every aspect of our life, robbing us of the joy and passion that life is truly meant to provide us. Our busy-ness is a true reflection of the chaos that is going on inside our selves.
I'm thankful that I have a career that gives me the freedom of picking and choosing my time devoted to working. I"m grateful and forever thankful that I live on such a beautiful Island, filled with amazing energy and people that further feed and nurture my soul.
I"m blessed, and for that, I am thankful!
Growing up, I was the child who had the penchance for adventure, wildness and taking risks. I had a million careers in mind for when I grew up; I was very much driven by passion and creativity. The years have tamed that part of me, and although it still exists and is a large part of who I am today, it is controlled, managed and fine tuned, and for that I am grateful. From this long process of taming has come an understanding of the innate gifts that I have been blessed with, and for that, I am thankful. I'm especially grateful that I have whole-heartedly embraced who I am and what I do and have 'come into' my Self with this awareness and acceptance that has given me so much new success.
Getting to this stage of maturity as such, didn't come without a fight. I was forever riddled with statements like "you're a dreamer", "you take on too much", "you'll never make money doing that" and all the other negative connotations that came from others around me. I have come to that place in my life, however, where I frankly don't 'give a damn' what others have to say or think. I am simply being who I am, and that means I have fully accepted who I am, what my talents and abilities are, and am serving others out of love and the higher good based on all of that foundational 'stuff' that I've been blessed with. And that's okay. Acceptance of this has also meant that I have creatively found a way to make my destiny work and mesh into my chosen career; when things synergistically 'fit' together and work, its a very good thing :)
Mentoring with some very powerful women and men this last year has taught me so much. I'm grateful for the connections that I've made and the recognition of the continued sacrifices that this entails while I continue as a student on this journey of fully becoming what I am destined to be. It's an amazing thing to hear complete strangers confirm and verify what you have always been innately aware of and that I tried to repress due to the opinions of others. Embracing my destiny has been a journey into itself.. and every minute of it has been a true gift. There is not a moment during these times that I have any doubt, regrets, second thoughts or hesitation. When you are finally in your 'groove', you become aware of the flow of energy around you and it just feels right. I am forever grateful and thankful that I've finally reached that point in my life.
What this means for me is embracing the fact that I will be a 'student' for some time yet, in various aspects of the work I do. Life-learning is what will take me to new heights. Synchronistically, things are happening in all the right places, as long as I can refrain from trying to take control of the helm... I have learned to trust the Universe and just 'go with the flow', now that I'm in it.. amazing and wonderful experiences continue to happen when I don't interfere with this process.
Starting on the journey of figuring out what your destiny is can be painful and sometimes take a great amount of time. Looking back on my journey, I can say that listening to your intuition.. that 'gut instinct' is what will ultimately lead you to where you are meant to be. If you are having doubts, hating what you do, and constantly dreaming of other opportunities, whether in your career or relationships, you are likely not on the right path.
This year is all about taking that last big step.. that huge risk that will mean so much because it is the right one to take. The shift is happening now for all of us... and it's a life-altering one.. in every positive meaning of that phrase.
My desire is that every single on of us can embrace our destiny and not allow our selves to be held back by fears, opinions of others or other negative energies. Ask Nike so eloquently stated... " just do it..".
For years I've kept myself busy; always had more than one project on the go, always worked hard, raised kids and done things for others on top of my own life. It soon defined who I was.. I had a reputation for just that: a loyal, hardworking woman who had a big heart; someone that everyone could rely on.. someone who was always there, giving and giving some more.
What took me forever to learn, however, was that this seemingly admirable trait was really a distraction from having to love myself and spend a whole lot of time with me. When this was gently pointed out to me by a professional colleague, mentor and confidante (who also happens to be a clinical counselor), I was in absolute denial and was quite insulted by this suggestion. She is the kind of person, however, that I needed to hear that from; I admire her professionalism, her direct approach, and above all, I trust her beyond anything. We discussed this at great length, more than once, and she was able to pry away that first important, steadfast and iron-clad layer that let the light through.
I'm grateful for that moment in my life, as it truly was a turning point for me. Since that time, I've completed my own professional training as a Registered Psychiatric Nurse and have learned even more about the psychology behind this very common behaviour. This has resulted in a tremendous amount of work on my Self, which I am forever grateful for. I've had to really concentrate on saying "no" and not taking on too much. I've realized that its innately easier to fall back into the same old habits, but with perseverance and a willingness to change, I've managed to overcome that desire to bury myself in busy-ness and instead, to find the peace and solitude in living in the moment. From this, I've not only gained a sense of wellness, peace, contentment, focus, completion but more success than ever before.
Sometimes we have to allow others the privilege of holding up our mirrors to see ourselves for who and what we truly are. Sometimes that moment isn't pretty and deep down, we likely know that, and that's what keeps us wrapped up in the go-go-go lifestyle.
I'm grateful now that I can sit in silence with myself and that I can enjoy my own company again. I've gained a tremendous amount of gratitude for being able to love myself.. something I realized in that epiphanous moment, that I could never do before.
I'm thankful for the people who have woven their way into my life over the last year in particular; these people have been monumentous in seeing my new dreams and goals to fruition, and for that, I will forever be grateful. I've realized that its not about crossing the finish line by yourself as the winner, but about creating a team that can each carry the other to the finish line at the same time, albeit each with their own journey.
I am blessed, and for that, I am thankful.
As an empath, I grew up, always with my first concern being for others. I had so much love to give and I enjoyed giving of myself more than anything. I drew a great amount of satisfaction from being helpful, nurturing and reliable. What I learned, sometimes painfully, is that loving my Self first was not something I was comfortable with. Focusing outward on others was much easier than spending time with myself. The realization was slow to set in, and it was only after much reflection and a ton of work on myself over the years that I began to be authentic with who I really was.
I now see my 'self' separate from Self... and yes, there is a real distinction between the two.
I had a conversation with my son just recently, who at the age of seven is already very spiritually curious... he asked me why I meditated and I answered him with "So I can spend time with my Self". He looked at my quizzically and said "but you're always with your self!". I realized in that moment that a child has no concept of separation from Self, and I missed that innocent acceptance of all that life is. He then wanted to know what meditation was, and had a hundred questions surrounding this puzzling exercise his mother would do a couple times a day. After answering a series of questions, I finally told him "I go to the place between letting out my breath and taking a new one.. that moment of pause before any other action takes place.. that stillness that exists in the most extreme moment of time where I am just 'being'.. with no thought, no action and pure freedom". Of course he looked at me with a comically distorted face of misunderstanding, so I did a little exercise with him to help him understand. I had him close his eyes and just breathe naturally. But I had him pay attention to the moment of time between breaths, at the end of his exhale and before he started his new breath. He went through a moment of exaggerated breathing of course, but eventually settled enough to 'get it'. I could see the wheels processing this new experience for him.
Self, with a capital "S" is the part of you that observes what the small 's' self does in every moment of every day. It is the one that is, for the most part, silent, and just observes and knows... usually knows the truth, knows better, knows the outcome before 'self' can admit to it. It is 'self' that then says "I knew it! I should have listened to my gut instinct!". SELF is the gut instinct.. like a silent parent standing in the wings allowing their child to make their own mistakes in order to learn valuable lessons. "self' with a small 's' is the child-like part that likes to argue, knows it all, takes risks, doesn't stop to think, reacts instead of acts, and sets sometimes rather unrealistic boundaries for the Self that are based on bias, cultural norms, peer pressure, and worldviews.
Meditation is a great way to become connected to the part of your self that is authentically you... your Self. And yes, you will find it resides in that void of breath. It's a magical place.. pay attention to what is there and you will be delighted at the peace and joy that this smallest of discoveries can bring you.
I'm grateful that I have discovered my Self and that I can go there at anytime to hang out and relax in the space in which it exists. I'm thankful for the life experiences that allow me to get there and in return, give me a strong sense of balance, peace and harmony.
Life is good!
My first exposure to the concept of Synchronicity came after reading James Redfield's books, The Celestine Prophesy and the Celestine Vision. I immediately woke up to how much synchronicity was actually going on around me, and I was fascinated. With this realization began a personal journey of 'playing' with this concept.. the idea that 'thought creates reality' and paying 'attention to the details' soon opened my eyes further to the grand order that exists in our world. I was mind-blown.
Once I became aware of this concept it was very difficult to ignore the synchronicity that was around me daily. From events that would seemingly transpire magically, to the people who came in and out of my life, doors were opening and leading me down new and exciting paths. It was simply too uncanny to ignore.
I have a deep respect for the existence of synchronicity today. Everything truly does happen for a reason, as the old adage goes, and it is through this realization that I have been able to sit and take a back seat to my life-journey and just 'be' in the moment, allowing things to unfold as they are destined to do so. As Redfield put it, living synchronistically is about living intuitively; allowing one's intuition to guide and direct one through life in a gentle and natural way. Through this, we are able to feel spiritually grounded, connected and are further able to operate out of a place of truth, authenticity, and love.
I'm grateful that I have been easily able to capture this 'flow' and live my life in this manner. I'm thankful that it is available to all of us; that there is no secret to being able to live a life filled with synchronistic and beautiful events; we all possess the ability to allow this flow to happen. I'm grateful for the people and events that have come into my life in this manner.. life is good.
I remember a time in my life when making mistakes was not only common and considered part of growing up, but something that I personally had a hard time accepting of myself. I was a perfectionist by my own right; I applied myself wholeheartedly to any projects I took on, and my motto became "If you're going to do a job, do it right, or don't do it at all". I still feel this way about applying myself to what I choose to do, and I've instilled this same sense of value into my children.
What I have learned as I've gone through life is that the real lesson is not in how graceful you present yourself through the journey, but what you learn about your Self from your mistakes. Some of the lessons are superficial, like checking your math calculations while others are more intrinsic and are about reactions and core beliefs that can ultimately affect the outcomes.
Much of the deeper inner reflections from making mistakes is what defines us as humans. I have an understanding at this stage of my life that I didn't possess earlier in life; a regard for the fact that making mistakes is okay, and is really an indication of our humanness and that being human and accountable is really where the lesson lies.
In my career as a mental health nurse, I work with people every day that have come to a point in their lives where they too are having to deal with mistakes that have been made. Despite mental illness, there is still a level of humanness that shines through; and for all involved, this means there exists teachable moments. The beautiful thing about being human is we also possess the capacity to learn, and in my experiences, both professionally as an entrepreneur, a mother, a healer and a nurse, no one is ever too late to learn.
I'm grateful for the wisdom and the knowledge that comes from mistakes, and that by making a few of my own, I possess the insight and experience that came with that journey. It is only through this recognition and understanding that I am able to offer forward the same wisdom to others who may be in similar circumstances of learning life-lessons.
Mistakes are all part of the greater universal plan; without mistakes there is no growth.
I'm grateful and thankful for mine.
We all like to think of ourselves as progressive in our thoughts, our livelihood, our relationships and our lives in general. For me the focus has been internal rather than external. Journeying to the center of this 'earth' (me) has been tough. There's been no map, no indication of direction, no knowing of this way or that, no answers, and at times, it's even been scary and dark. Similar to hunkering down in a dark room, the eyes soon adjust to their new environment and you begin to be able to 'see'. The internal journey has been very much that way. It's amazing to me just how much light can travel down into the depths of Self.
That light doesn't come from sun-source, however. Rather, it comes by way of peeling back the layers that have hardened us, wrapped us safely, protected us and nurtured us from life up to this very moment. Those wraps, cloaks, tarps and reinforced steel buildings no longer serve us, and the process of tearing down those protective layers is very liberating and ultimately allows more light inward.
Self-realization is a powerful thing; it literally has the power to change your perspective of life; what's important and what's not. Through this journey, I've slowly become 'detached' from material 'stuff' that really doesn't matter. Don't get me wrong, I still have expensive taste and have a huge admiration and respect for the creation of man-made items borne from creative minds... but my desire to own them and possess them has greatly diminished, I'm proud to say. I can see the intrinsic value in relationships and astonishingly enough, those who no longer walk the same journey as me have faded to the background and new, amazing souls have presented themselves in the here and now.
The amount of pressure that relieves alone is paramount to happiness... Happiness truly is a very simplistic end to a rather attached journey through life. This has resulted in a slower pace to my life... being able to live in the moment and cherish each and every moment and person that comes into that time with me, however fleeting.
I recognize the value in 'being' in the moment: we are pre-wired to do just that.. after all, we're not human 'doings'..but human 'beings'..
Having no regrets has also been part of the growth that has come from this introspection.. regrets keep you anchored to the past, and like a weight that just won't let go, it will eventually rob you of your strength, your passion and motivation to keep on moving forward.
My life now has more meaning, more valuable relationships, more truth, more authenticity, more beauty, more peace, more synchronicity and more positive energy.
For that, I am eternally grateful. I have truly come full bloom...I am blessed.
Coming back home to Vancouver Island after a week away at a Therapeutic Touch Mentorship Intensive has been tough. It was such a spiritually infused and blessed energy group to be a part of, it was hard to come back to the realities of everyday life outside of Indralaya.
I was connected with some amazing souls while I was there and made some new life-long friends as well. I journaled daily which is such a treat... life at home is sometimes too hectic to allow me enough 'me time' to do such things.
The peace and tranquility and the quality learning and experiences at this camp were inexplicably wondrous. I learned so much from my mentors and the others who gave seminars throughout the week. The daily meditations were beautifully facilitated and the food was unbelievable.
I wasn't sure about the ova-lacto-vegetarian diet at first, thinking it would leave me feeling hungry between meals, but the menu was amazing and the food fabulous, and miraculously, I never felt hungry anytime in-between.
The scenery was stunning.. the Island is beautiful and filled with quaint farms, buildings and breathtaking coastlines with the neighbouring San Juan Islands so close there is a feeling of protection from their vicinity. Residents are friendly and have that laid-back-Island-life-approach to living. It truly is a magical place.
We were asked to do a short presentation our last day for the whole group on what our learning experience was like there: I wrote from the heart, like I always do, and was so grateful to be able to share the words with everyone else. It went something like this:
"Thinking back over this last week, my mind is filled with dozens of adjectives that I could use to describe how I felt about my time here. However, they too have morphed over the week into words that hold much deeper meanings.
Day One: excitement, anticipation, nervousness, eagerness, curiosity, humor
Day Two: inquisitive, questioning, humbled, self-aware, meditative, reflective, stewardship, tired
Day Three: Energized, introspection, self-discovery, sharing, connecting, camaraderie, understanding, openness, humility, groundedness.
Day Four: centeredness, peace, acceptance, simplicity, connectivity, exhaustion
Day Five: unity, order, transformation, universality, bonding, life-way, understanding
Day Six: respectful, honored, blessed, teamwork, transcendence
Now, my Mentor, Sue, is likely sitting there saying "Well, that sounds very lovely, Dayle, but what does that 'feel' like?"
Well, it feels like the lens through which I viewed the world has been cleansed of a film that was obscuring my vision. The distant blue mountains now I know have beautifully deep-rooted trees that can withstand the winds; rivers that wind through out, sometimes cascading and carving, and yet other times trickling or calm and deep, but always nourishing. Animals and other life-forms reside there too, all in harmony with the trees, the water, and each other. Each very unique but each equally affected by the actions of the other. The Sun I see now has rays that reach deep within even the darkest parts of the forest, adding warmth and light to foster growth and life.
Color abounds an each is a new perspective and representation of my emotions that have been newly defined.
I see the wings of a butterfly that can now gently un-ruffle a field the most beautiful soft green and yellow that can heal and comfort. I sense the swirl of a cool breeze and the color blue that can calm and cool the irritation, and I can hear the hum of the color purple that can open and heal the darkest places.
I can smell the warm salty breeze that can stimulate the void and I can taste the spice that can heat up the coldness. I can feel the energy, see the connection and hear the words depicted as images, emotions, and senses that before were unimaginable.
What I learned this week cannot be captured in a textbook. It is so much more than that, and for me truly is the embodiment of what Therapeutic Touch is all about. It has been a wonderful journey. Namaste"
I am grateful and I am blessed to be part of such an amazing and wonderful group of healers. Indralaya, I will be back.. :)
~Love and Light
I love it when I find books or documentaries that rock my world. They seem to come to me at the exact moment that they are required to help shift my perspective on some subject or another.
I wanted to share my findings with everyone as I think these are a goldmine of information that can truly make a difference to how we think, feel and act in our created realities.
There is a global shift occurring and we're all part of that changing energy. We must become agents of change.... 'changents'.... in order for the shift to complete. We know it innately; we can feel it; we've noticed the changes already as upheaval, unrest, unhappiness and unsettled energy.
There is a huge list of video documentaries that are truly eyeopening that can be found at this link:
300 Videos to Expand Your Consciousness and Blow Your Mind
And some truly inspiring books listed here:
Books that Can Save the World
It is one thing to read or watch these and be affected by them, but more importantly is how we react; how we effect change in our own way to carry these messages that have affected us so deeply, forward for others. Change occurs when the energy of a new perspective is kept alive and manifested through growing energy. That comes from you and I reacting to what we see and hear.
Choose carefully what you want to be passionate about. We all have a part to play in being earthly 'changents'.. we have to adopt a global worldview instead of a 'me' view.. look around and see what you've failed to notice before. Find your passion in that detail and shift your energy to where it really makes a difference.
~Love and Light