Writing down that which we are grateful for helps to shift our focus off the things we cannot control, and onto the positive aspects of our life; those that we are blessed to experience.
In honoring this simple, daily adjustment in our routines, we change the energy of our being to vibrate at a higher frequency, therefore attracting more sustenance into our lives that is rooted in love.
Mistakes can sometimes bury us in shame, guilt, regret and a bevy of other uncomfortable emotions and memories, but it really doesn't serve us well to perceive these moments in life as failures or mistakes.
Most times, mistakes or blunders are synchronistic occurrences that materialize to change our direction, force us to slow down, provide opportunity for the right circumstances to enter our lives, or even the right people. Sometimes, they can even save our very life.
Viewing mistakes with humbled grace means that you recognize the mistake for what it was, but are able to see past the obvious and the negative aspects and find the treasure among the ruin. When you begin to analyze these moments with an innocent curiosity with no attachment, you can easily spot these treasured lessons as easily as a shiny piece of silver laying in the sun.
Acceptance of these mistakes or faults, as some will label them, with a divine level of Self-conscious grace will allow us to move forward into the purpose that these lessons are meant to establish for us... rather than serving up more shame.
Why do we feel shameful about making mistakes? We are raised to follow societal norms; we are taught that we are either behaving well or poorly... there is no in-between, and with these lessons, we are taught that to be "bad" is a shameful thing.. and being 'bad' encompasses making mistakes, not learning quick enough, not listening, not following the rules set out by others. Making mistakes is commonly viewed as an incompetence rather than a process of learning and of growth.
When we make mistakes, it is so very important to be able to find comfort in knowing that it is okay to do so. It only confirms our humanness and our ability to learn and grow. There is no shame in that. Don't allow others to dictate or try to make you bend to your mistakes. Hold your head high and acknowledge your mistake, identify the lesson, and learn from it.
Moving forward with grace is the best gift you can give yourself; remaining stuck in shame and guilt serves no purpose, so find the shiny reason to reach forward and leave it behind.
~Love and Light
We've all been willing victims to situations or people who we feel are 'out to get us' or a result of some bad Karma that has fallen onto us. Truly, these are only excuses to avoid having to look inward and see what our own part was in the negativity... and yes, there is a part for each of us.
Taking ownership of our shiny parts is easy, but its the not-so-shiny parts that really want us to pay attention to them. Like tarnished silver, these less attractive parts require a little TLC, some love and a bit of effort to restore them to where they shine again... and shine they will!
Accepting our faults as well as our strengths is what truly walking our individual journey's is about; learning about our true Self as it reacts to situations that life presents itself. Instead of being judgmental, disapproving and disappointed in these parts of who we are, embrace them and learn the lesson they have to offer. Then simply let them go with the intention of changing, modifying, resolving, owning, or authenticating it. Quite often we will subconsciously seek out others who wear our tarnished parts as their armor. Once we get comfortable enough with them, the criticizing starts and their flaws begin to bother us. Sometimes it gets blamed as the demise of the relationship. Stopping and analyzing why these purported flaws bother us so much will usually reveal our own discomfort with the exact flaw in ourselves, but of course its always easier to pick it out in someone else and blame them for what we feel inside that we've spent years, likely, trying to stuff away and hide.
Instead of reacting to tarnished bits, we should be reaching inward and asking our Selves what it is about this trait that we find so bothersome. If this can be explored openly and without blame and judgment, you will likely find that it goes back as far as the development of some Core Beliefs that are likely not serving you well. Own what is yours and deal with it in a healthy manner that will heal the inner child in you and allow you to engage in relationships without judgment or blame. There is no 'shame' in owning our own stuff... in fact, we must be able to do this if we are truly wanting to explore, experience and live the life we are all meant to enjoy.
The power in this act alone can restore the love of Self back to the level that promotes self growth. And we are not living if we are not growing.. the two are symbiotic in nature. Growth sometimes means separating ourselves from those which we get comfortable having around to use as our crutch for our flaws. Its easier to have someone in front of you that you can point fingers at when your 'stuff' is surfacing and you don't recognize it for what it is.. it takes the onus of of us to do our own self-work and make the changes that need to be done. Recognizing when you are engaging in this type of soul-flagellation can be liberating, but often means you need to separate from blame-filled relationships and spend some time on your own to work on these issues. Loving yourself in this manner only creates a being that is easy for others to love.
Start living the way you are meant to live. Stop blaming, shaming and making excuses for why your life isn't what you envisioned. Work on your Self and you will find that you are completely in control of your own destiny... an age-old addage that we've all heard time and time again.
Begin living the life you deserve; operate from a place of love and compassion, and this is only ever authenticated with a strong foundation of Self love first.
We all like to think of ourselves as progressive in our thoughts, our livelihood, our relationships and our lives in general. For me the focus has been internal rather than external. Journeying to the center of this 'earth' (me) has been tough. There's been no map, no indication of direction, no knowing of this way or that, no answers, and at times, it's even been scary and dark. Similar to hunkering down in a dark room, the eyes soon adjust to their new environment and you begin to be able to 'see'. The internal journey has been very much that way. It's amazing to me just how much light can travel down into the depths of Self.
That light doesn't come from sun-source, however. Rather, it comes by way of peeling back the layers that have hardened us, wrapped us safely, protected us and nurtured us from life up to this very moment. Those wraps, cloaks, tarps and reinforced steel buildings no longer serve us, and the process of tearing down those protective layers is very liberating and ultimately allows more light inward.
Self-realization is a powerful thing; it literally has the power to change your perspective of life; what's important and what's not. Through this journey, I've slowly become 'detached' from material 'stuff' that really doesn't matter. Don't get me wrong, I still have expensive taste and have a huge admiration and respect for the creation of man-made items borne from creative minds... but my desire to own them and possess them has greatly diminished, I'm proud to say. I can see the intrinsic value in relationships and astonishingly enough, those who no longer walk the same journey as me have faded to the background and new, amazing souls have presented themselves in the here and now.
The amount of pressure that relieves alone is paramount to happiness... Happiness truly is a very simplistic end to a rather attached journey through life. This has resulted in a slower pace to my life... being able to live in the moment and cherish each and every moment and person that comes into that time with me, however fleeting.
I recognize the value in 'being' in the moment: we are pre-wired to do just that.. after all, we're not human 'doings'..but human 'beings'..
Having no regrets has also been part of the growth that has come from this introspection.. regrets keep you anchored to the past, and like a weight that just won't let go, it will eventually rob you of your strength, your passion and motivation to keep on moving forward.
My life now has more meaning, more valuable relationships, more truth, more authenticity, more beauty, more peace, more synchronicity and more positive energy.
For that, I am eternally grateful. I have truly come full bloom...I am blessed.
Coming back home to Vancouver Island after a week away at a Therapeutic Touch Mentorship Intensive has been tough. It was such a spiritually infused and blessed energy group to be a part of, it was hard to come back to the realities of everyday life outside of Indralaya.
I was connected with some amazing souls while I was there and made some new life-long friends as well. I journaled daily which is such a treat... life at home is sometimes too hectic to allow me enough 'me time' to do such things.
The peace and tranquility and the quality learning and experiences at this camp were inexplicably wondrous. I learned so much from my mentors and the others who gave seminars throughout the week. The daily meditations were beautifully facilitated and the food was unbelievable.
I wasn't sure about the ova-lacto-vegetarian diet at first, thinking it would leave me feeling hungry between meals, but the menu was amazing and the food fabulous, and miraculously, I never felt hungry anytime in-between.
The scenery was stunning.. the Island is beautiful and filled with quaint farms, buildings and breathtaking coastlines with the neighbouring San Juan Islands so close there is a feeling of protection from their vicinity. Residents are friendly and have that laid-back-Island-life-approach to living. It truly is a magical place.
We were asked to do a short presentation our last day for the whole group on what our learning experience was like there: I wrote from the heart, like I always do, and was so grateful to be able to share the words with everyone else. It went something like this:
"Thinking back over this last week, my mind is filled with dozens of adjectives that I could use to describe how I felt about my time here. However, they too have morphed over the week into words that hold much deeper meanings.
Day One: excitement, anticipation, nervousness, eagerness, curiosity, humor
Day Two: inquisitive, questioning, humbled, self-aware, meditative, reflective, stewardship, tired
Day Three: Energized, introspection, self-discovery, sharing, connecting, camaraderie, understanding, openness, humility, groundedness.
Day Four: centeredness, peace, acceptance, simplicity, connectivity, exhaustion
Day Five: unity, order, transformation, universality, bonding, life-way, understanding
Day Six: respectful, honored, blessed, teamwork, transcendence
Now, my Mentor, Sue, is likely sitting there saying "Well, that sounds very lovely, Dayle, but what does that 'feel' like?"
Well, it feels like the lens through which I viewed the world has been cleansed of a film that was obscuring my vision. The distant blue mountains now I know have beautifully deep-rooted trees that can withstand the winds; rivers that wind through out, sometimes cascading and carving, and yet other times trickling or calm and deep, but always nourishing. Animals and other life-forms reside there too, all in harmony with the trees, the water, and each other. Each very unique but each equally affected by the actions of the other. The Sun I see now has rays that reach deep within even the darkest parts of the forest, adding warmth and light to foster growth and life.
Color abounds an each is a new perspective and representation of my emotions that have been newly defined.
I see the wings of a butterfly that can now gently un-ruffle a field the most beautiful soft green and yellow that can heal and comfort. I sense the swirl of a cool breeze and the color blue that can calm and cool the irritation, and I can hear the hum of the color purple that can open and heal the darkest places.
I can smell the warm salty breeze that can stimulate the void and I can taste the spice that can heat up the coldness. I can feel the energy, see the connection and hear the words depicted as images, emotions, and senses that before were unimaginable.
What I learned this week cannot be captured in a textbook. It is so much more than that, and for me truly is the embodiment of what Therapeutic Touch is all about. It has been a wonderful journey. Namaste"
I am grateful and I am blessed to be part of such an amazing and wonderful group of healers. Indralaya, I will be back.. :)
~Love and Light
I love it when I find books or documentaries that rock my world. They seem to come to me at the exact moment that they are required to help shift my perspective on some subject or another.
I wanted to share my findings with everyone as I think these are a goldmine of information that can truly make a difference to how we think, feel and act in our created realities.
There is a global shift occurring and we're all part of that changing energy. We must become agents of change.... 'changents'.... in order for the shift to complete. We know it innately; we can feel it; we've noticed the changes already as upheaval, unrest, unhappiness and unsettled energy.
There is a huge list of video documentaries that are truly eyeopening that can be found at this link:
300 Videos to Expand Your Consciousness and Blow Your Mind
And some truly inspiring books listed here:
Books that Can Save the World
It is one thing to read or watch these and be affected by them, but more importantly is how we react; how we effect change in our own way to carry these messages that have affected us so deeply, forward for others. Change occurs when the energy of a new perspective is kept alive and manifested through growing energy. That comes from you and I reacting to what we see and hear.
Choose carefully what you want to be passionate about. We all have a part to play in being earthly 'changents'.. we have to adopt a global worldview instead of a 'me' view.. look around and see what you've failed to notice before. Find your passion in that detail and shift your energy to where it really makes a difference.
~Love and Light
Today was a day in which I was given opportunity to play with the energy of spirit again, and with each shamanic journey that I've been part of, the messages are becoming more prominent, obvious and clear. I'm extremely humbled by the presence of some amazing souls that I have surrounding me. The lessons are profound and deep.. some that I remember, others that I need to re- remember. In all cases however, I recognize these spirits by the 'feel' of the energy.. familiar, comfortable and safe. I know them from another time and space and I've learned to look forward to these moments like a long awaited family reunion.
What fascinates me the most with these experiences is the level of confidence, peace and 'knowing' that these spirits exude with every level of their existence. There is no doubt, no questions, no faltering in their being and their messages. It just is. Plain and simple. I'm so grateful that I've been blessed with their presence and their attachment to my spirit and I'm humbled by their power and their wisdom. If I can develop my skill and my gifts to the degree that they hold, I will be powerful in my own right too. For that I am thankful.
Spirit not only comes to me during shamanic journeys or energy work, but lately, through my interaction with other gifted beings around me in this lifetime. I'm blessed to have them in my life, and for each of them, I learn so much and in turn, have been able to delight them with my own energy that is unique to me.
I often wondered as a child about how infinitesimally small we actually are while laying on my back looking up at the heavens. Now, as an adult, I stand before those with amazing gifts and talents and realize how small we tend to be by having closed our hearts and our minds to what we really are. I'm grateful for the insight and for the ability, the drive and the passion to expand my Self into what I am.
I am all that is, including you.
We are all that is, there is nothing else. We are all one with all that is. The irony comes in knowing that intellectually makes me feel that same smallness with the grandiosity of the universe, but in my heart, that knowledge swells and makes me feel so much bigger than I ever imagined. There is a gift in that knowingness, and for that, I am blessed and I am thankful that I have experienced that.
~Love and light
I've become increasingly aware of the connection between myself and the people I meet. I have become 'tuned in' to the vibration that exists between myself and someone new that comes into my life, and it goes beyond what they do for a living, their looks or outward appearance. By simply paying attention to the energy that exists between us during our interaction, I've come to notice a very strong and predominant thread; for every person that I have met since the beginning of this year, the energy seems to be the same: comfortable, familiar and with a degree of 'knowing each other' that cannot be explained in this moment alone.
Having worked quite a bit lately with energy workers and Shamans, I have learned that these are likely 'soul tribe' members.. souls that I have been with at a time before; ones that resonate with you without judgment but rather out of pure unconditional love for you, naturally.
We all want to belong to someone, but historically with the advent of becoming 'civilized', we've pulled away from belonging to large groups or 'tribes' and focused all our energy on finding that 'one' person who can fill the void left by belonging to a larger group. Impossible task, and statistically, the divorce rates prove my point. I"m grateful that I have gained this deeper understanding of what really matters in order to find fulfillment and authenticity in my life!
So how do we find our 'tribe' in today's world? Who do we fit in with, and for many of us, how do we find them during the later stages of life when meeting people seems to be increasingly more difficult?
Here are some tips given by Lisa Rankin on the subject:
I'm grateful that I've started to find my tribe in this later stage of my life. I'm surrounded by the most beautiful and uplifting souls I could ever imagine. The love we have for each other is pure, unconditional and true to all that is. It's not about sexual needs or desire.. its about something much deeper than that. It's a new feeling of 'friendships' and these ones are deeply rooted and I know that they're simply there to stay. It's a beautiful feeling knowing that you 'belong' somewhere, and I view it as a 'homecoming' of sorts.
My wish is that we all gravitate to our own tribes; a safe place where we are loved unconditionally and we are accepted, and most importantly, where we are supported and where spiritual growth and inspiration occur to keep us, or place us, on the path of authenticity where we ALL need to be. I'm so grateful for this part of my journey. I am blessed :)
It's interesting how life can change direction in a single unannounced moment. Forgiveness has a huge part to play in the energy we attract into our lives. I know for myself, I have practiced forgiveness to greater depths this last year and the effects have been profound.
What I'm especially grateful in light of all this is the 'little things' in life.. and I mean this quite literally. I've grown attached to the little details in life of late; I think its part of my appreciation of introspection and paying attention to the details of Self from within.
Some of the "little" precious things in my life that I'm grateful for are my own kids, my ex's children, and my son's pet bunny to whom I've grown quite attached. These small beings are full of unconditional love, and when I'm with them, they are 100% focused on the relationship we have. It's a beautiful thing. I am thankful for the inquisitiveness that they all bring to our special relationships, and the endearing moments when they cuddle up against you, and you know that you offer them security, safety and love and that they can feel it from you. I'm grateful that I have the children in my life that I do.. for each of them is a wonderful and delightful blessing; a gentle reminder of the child in all of us who needs constant nurturing and that which is provided through interaction and play with these beautiful souls. Just listening to their often long-winded and animated, silly stories and fragmented thoughts is a delight, and I'm grateful for each and every moment I have with all of them.
I'm also extremely touched and forever grateful for the intimate little moments of unconditional love, empathy and compassion between myself, my clients and patients. When an elderly soul with dementia struggles to find the words to explain something they need or feel to me; I can gently take their hands while we come together, forehead to forehead and I tell them that its all okay. In these moments they are able to be lucid enough to tell me that they hate that their brains are failing them, and that the words they so desperately want me to hear, are lost. I often am told how scared they are. We share these moments sometimes with tears as I travel this slow and ever-changing and frightful journey with them. Or the client that comes to me and wants to know what they should do because they can't understand what is happening to them; I can take their hand and give them a hug, and tell them to walk with me.. we can do so in silence and the communication that is received in doing this is deeper than any verbal conversation we could attempt to have.
I'm also extremely grateful for the days that feel satisfying enough that allow me to have an afternoon nap, uninterrupted. As a nurse, the long 12 hour shifts overnight that are so disruptive are counterbalanced by these moments of solitude and peace. I"m grateful that I have the time in my life to relish these moments in a healthy manner.
I'm also grateful for the companionship of some amazing people who are on similar journey's to me, whether spiritually, emotionally, or professionally. Each one offers me moments of reflection that further enhance, augment and highlight my own unique abilities and persona. Through this self-realization comes Self Actualization, and for that, I'm so grateful.
Life is beautiful.. there are so many facets to living in this world, that we often forget to stop and 'smell the roses'.. and appreciate the little things that lief also offers us.
I'm grateful for the forgiveness in the hearts of those around me who have suffered and found requiem in this single, yet difficult act. I'm grateful for the human experience, for without that, none of my story would be able to be told. and so far, I think its a pretty interesting read...
~Namaste, friends :)
Whenever I can, I connect with like-minded souls and experiment and play with the energy that is a gift to us all. As an intuitive, a healer and an empath, these 'play-dates' can sometimes be really profound, emotional and draining.. at other times they're uplifting, enlightening and a bit of a 'high'. Today's play-date turned out to carry a theme, as they almost always do, and that was of Self-acceptance and love... recognizing that there is no void in-between each and every one of us.. the space is the same as the object.. it is all the same; as are all things on earth. We are all created from the same source energy.
I'm grateful for these experiences with some truly beautiful beings that are on similar journey's as I am.. I'm thankful that my experiences are also that of others and we share something that is growing exponentially among all of us on earth. I'm thankful for the gift of intuition, empathy, and an innate sense of energy flow from all that surrounds me.
I have come to learn that vibratory states really affect me.. this may be why I have always had a very strong affinity to music of all genres.. take a look at the now-dated CD collection I have and one can instantly see the eclectic tastes in music that I possess.
I'm grateful that we are able to produce music and that it is such a huge part of my life. I'm also grateful to be surrounded by many friends who are musically inclined and who also appreciate the energy that this provides. I'm thankful that my creative side has brought me to mix with such an amazing group of like-minded friends and acquaintances; musicians, artists, writers, creators, dancers.. without any of these creations, life would be dull. The vibrations that these talents emit from their love of these human experiences serves us all.. energy knows no bounds and its affects on the human body are global.
I'm grateful that I continue to work on loving my Self and that through this love, I am able to affect those around me in the same way. I can see the winds of change shifting us in a whole new direction.. people are starting to care; to love one another; to erase the lines that have separated us from each other. We are learning to play with energy and operate out of love. What more of a gift could we give each other, that is in exact alignment with our purpose here on earth?
What an amazing experience. What an amazing time to be alive and to experience this paradigm shift. For that, I am grateful.
We are blessed.
~Love and Light
I've always enjoyed having time to myself. I think innately that was where I felt safe from the onslaught of energy I would pick up from others as I am very much an empath, and was not in control of this energy as a youth.
Today, I cherish my time with my Self as it allows for a much deeper understanding of the world around me and how I am interacting with it. I can honestly say that all of my growth has occurred from these moments with my self and some deep self-exploration. I'm grateful for that, as that's what has given me the beautiful life I have today.
Society tends to create these harsh labels for those who choose to withdraw and disengage from others: words like loner, loser, hermit, recluse and other labels have been floating around for years. There is a fine balance between separating Self from others due to lack of social skill or an imbalance of coping abilities versus the need to withdraw to re-group and survey actions, responses, emotions and just to find peace. I'm grateful that I'm able to do this and feel good about it: I do not have a strong desire to seek happiness and fulfillment from others, I am able to 'self entertain" with confidence and a generous sense of peace and well-being. I'm thankful for that because I can only imagine how exhausting it would be to try to maintain a level of activity around me at all times to keep myself distracted from what really matters: discovering my true Self.
There is a difference between self and Self. Although this difference is subtle, it is likely the most important difference that one can learn to distinguish. Self (with a capital S) is the seat of the soul; the real essence of you that recognizes behaviours that you do, habits that you have, and feelings that you experience from a back-seat perspective. It is the part of us that is pure source energy.. the part of 'us' that we think about when we really ask "Who Am I?". The 'self' with a small 's' is that part of us that is heavily involved in the human experience.. the part that hired the committee of voices that hold debates in your head; "I knew I should have called sooner! Why didn't I call sooner? Jeez! Now I've lost valuable time and I won't be able to make up for this. If I wasn't so stupid, I would have listened to myself".... this small 'self' is condescending, doubtful, insecure, argumentative, snide, and very very powerful.
The art of mindfulness is the remedy to this destructive chatter. When one is able to fully be mindful, one can experience the emotions, reactions, feelings of the human experience simply by noticing, and releasing. We get stuck, well, our 'self' gets stuck the minute that chorus of voices has something to say about any given experience.. "Why did she look at me that way?? What was that all about? What a bitch! I didn't do anything to her. Hmmph! The nerve. I knew she didn't like me..."..... whereas the Self acknowledges the 'look', and the feelings that want to well up from that moment, takes a back seat to it and simply lets it go. Practicing mindfulness is truly the best Self-love we can do for ourselves, and an age-old practice that embodies this is meditation and yoga. It takes practice, and needs a commitment from self and Self to take a piece of your day, every day.
I'm grateful that I have been able to incorporate mindfulness in the form of meditation and yoga practice into my busy life. I look forward to these moments with my Self, and when life gets in the way, I can feel my body craving that time: My body now knows what that feels like and wants more of it. For that, I am forever grateful.
Learn to love the time with yourself. It's not about finding something to do with your self because you get too bored.. its about sitting, contemplating and learning to distinguish Self from self.
~Namaste, dear light souls... :)